If I had to tell you one of the top 3 things I despise, it is lying. Just be honest with me and we'd get along a lot better. Being lied to gets me so worked up. It puts a weight on my heart. It irritates me like nothing other.
With that being said... I dont understand why my darling daughter feels the need to lie about the dumbest things. "Have you been texting boys?"... no.... "Did you clean your room?"... yes... "Did you turn in that paper at school?"... yes... when the correct answer was the opposite.
Last night I noticed her bangs looked shorter. I asked her if she cut them and she says "No". Hmmm... are you sure? They look shorter. "Well, I got a rubber band stuck in them last week and Angie had to cut it out". Well, Im pretty sure that I've seen your bangs since then and this doesnt look like a little bit, but whatever.
After dinner, she goes upstairs and messes with her hair some more and I notice it even more. I ask her again... still getting some BS answer and my irritation level is even higher now. After bible study, her hair is completely down and I see the chop job. I call her out on it again, "This is the last time I am going to ask you and I expect you to be honest with me...."
FINALLY she tells me that she didnt like them the other day and she cut them. Really? Was it that hard? Ugh! We discussed that lying isn't acceptable and wont be tolerated... so she is grounded yet again for lying. We talked about being responsible and asking for help. We talked about how if she came to me and told me what she wanted to do and we talked about it before she does something how it has a better outcome... but even if she did it on her own and she confessed when I first asked, it would have a different outcome. Its the lying that got her in trouble.
She was pretty upset.... I kept my cool. I didnt yell, I didnt swear, but I did voice my disappointment and I think that was worse for her than me yelling and screaming about it. We discussed it in a biblical sense and she prayed for help to stop lying. I told her that regardless of me being upset, I love her unconditionally and we will get past this but we need to be honest with each other.
If we are already lying about dumb things at 11, I need prayer to make it through the teenage years. This is stressing me out already!